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Andrew and Cam are having one of their all-too-familiar arguments. While the specific facts, triggers, and topics vary—who said/did something about x—the underlying running theme is about who is not stepping up, who is doing too much, who is not being sensitive, who is not feeling supported.
They are both feeling the same way—both feeling miserable, unappreciated, overwhelmed, both feeling that the other guy isn’t stepping up or is always overreacting. And both will admit that they are both stressed to the max—about jobs, about kids, about everyday life.
Emotions like sadness, guilt, or anger can appear like complicated puzzles. To make sense of these feelings, we often direct our attention to the events that influenced them, how uncomfortable we feel, or what we can do to feel better. But when emotions are intense, it's easy to get so wrapped up in these details that we overlook important pieces of information—our thoughts about the events, the emotions, and our options for responding to them.
Editor’s note: Early attachment trauma can also occur due to non-abusive circumstances, such as when a child is separated from their primary caregivers due to medical concerns. However, this article focuses primarily on attachment trauma caused by neglect and abuse.
Early attachment trauma is a distressing or harmful experience that affects a child’s ability to form healthy interpersonal relationships. It includes abuse, abandonment, and neglect of an infant or child prior to age two or three. These traumas can have subtle yet long-lasting effects on a person’s emotional health.
I recently worked with a mother who was struggling with the suspicion that her teenaged son was abusing drugs and alcohol. As she expressed her concerns in a therapy session, it was understandable that she kept vacillating between anger, fear, and denial. One of the scariest realizations for a parent to face is the possibility that the changes they observe in their child’s moods, academic performance, physical appearance, choice of friends, thoughts, and behaviors could be due to substance abuse. It’s human nature to hope that minimizing or denying a problem can somehow make it go away. But parental radar is often quite accurate. I’ve worked with many mothers and fathers over the years who have said, “I know my kid. And I know when something is wrong with him or her.” The question I am often asked, and the one parents seem to grapple with is, “What should I do with my suspicions?”
Most relationships do not start off abusive or violent, and most intimate relationships never become abusive at all, but unfortunately many do. In fact, domestic violence happens with startling, heartbreaking frequency.
Basic truth: When conversing with other human beings, most of us are inclined to offer an uh-huh, hmmm or head nod every now and again, to let the other person know we’re hearing them and receiving their information. These gestures are a way of maintaining a connection in the interaction and assuring the other person that we’re with them in their story.
MILWAUKEE — Working from home is becoming the norm for many people as the coronavirus (COVID-19) forces businesses to limit how many people can gather inside of buildings. The mental health challenges that come along with working from home are another thing people are struggling with in recent times.
“Am I the only one that thought COVID-19 would be over by now?”
“When will COVID-19 be over?”
“Will life ever go back to how it was before the pandemic?”